With the advent of Valentine's Day just a few days away ....
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What do you ladies really look for on the day?
Just a card? Is the choice of card really important? Are you a 'hearts and roses' kind of girl, do you go for the words or does a funny, naughty jobbie hit the spot? And what should a man write inside to secure your devotion ( for at least another year! ) ...?
Are flowers well received? Are they important? Or is there nothing better than being passed a massive bunch in front of work colleagues?
And what about that little box tied up with ribbon? Do you expect a pressie? Should it be something romantic or something useful? And what pressie would just 'touch your heart'. With gold at really unaffordable prices, is silver now on the menu when it comes to jewellery?
Come on, lots to talk about here ..... and what about the guys? What's in store for them?
Responses (10)
The best Valentine gift for me would be hubby going through a pain free day (his hand is waiting to be operated on) and be able to painlessly eat a special meal which I would lovingly prepare and just sit together and enjoy each others company.
He always buys me a card but I don't expect it as we love each other all year round not just one day of the year.
Mr F and I still mark Valentine's day, for which I'm thankful as it does help to keep the romance alive in difficult times.
But nowadays we just exchange cards, having long since decided that the red roses are horrendously overpriced. I might get a bottle of Champagne, though....
Not really hearts and roses, but not funny either. Just a sincere, heartfelt message does it for me.
I've always preferred silver to gold, but I can't say I'm a jewelry person at all so I can't really say anything helpful about that.
And no, I've never been given an enormous bunch in front of my work colleagues.....!
I can't think of anything worse than flowers arriving at work!!! Why the need for such a public show?
Have a nice day Mr and Mrs F that's the important that you are together in whatever your doing
Thank you Serena. He's gone to work, but I got a card and a cup of tea in bed this morning. I had to get a bit of a shuffle on to retrieve his card from its hiding place so I could give it to him before he went out at 6.45.
How lovely feline, romance isn't dead after all!
I think I answered this question when CS mentioned it last week. We shall exchange cards which will be heartfelt and beautiful. Mine will be hand made and special words made up to let him know how much I love him. His will be either one from year's gone by if he is unable to get to the bigger shops or it will be something very special. We shall buy each other a lovely gift but not flowers. I will probably get an acer as he knows I love them and I will treat him to something for the garden. We shall dress nicely in the evening and have a lovely special meal. I'm going to make you sick now as my husband says every day is special with me by his side and I'm especially grateful that we shall be sharing this special Valentine's day after not knowing if he would be here this year or not and now I've got some medical problems with my heart and don't know what is going to happen we shall doubly enjoy our Valentine's evening and like Feline perhaps treat ourselves to a bottle of champagne. Anyway cheers to you all on that day even if you don't celebrate it this year next year might be very different. Look to the future don't live in the past.
Gosh I feel like an agony Aunty now. Sorry my lovely friends. x
Sabre, I wish you and hubby all the happiness in the world, and not just on Valentine's Day.
Enjoy your day Sabre, you and your hubby deserve it.x
Sabre's response did not seem "agony Aunty" to me! Mrs. G. has been successfully (?) treated for cancer, 2 operations last year put her in the all-clear category. So, for us, it is as special a day as it can be, and as Feline123 said, sincere and heartfelt. From a man's viewpoint, Valentine's day has nearly caught up with Christmas where I am 'advertised out' when the days arrive. This brings uneccessary expectations, that really a man or woman does not need. Love is the answer!
I think I will decide on the day what we will do, as I treat my wife.
Ah that's lovely, I hope you and Mrs greydo have a wonderful time, you've been through so much, enjoy your day together.
Sabre, that's one of the most beautiful things I've ever read!
Seems like a lot of us have been through a lot in the past year, and have trials and tribulations ahead of us again this year, best wishes to everyone, I do envy those of you with loving partners. Hope you all enjoy your day
I think it's lovely that you are both so apreciative of each other and quite right to stop and smell the roses as they say!
That was beautiful Sabre! Very touching indeed! What a beautiful couple you are! Happy valentines day x
Well said you put us all to shame Sabre!
I'd be happy with a cuddle from the right man...
All that sort of thing petered out a few years (if that long) after I got married, so its a long long time since I looked at cards.
Can't imagine anything worse than flowers arriving at work, would be mortified!! And I 'd rather like a rose bush rather than flowers, (yellow roses would be perfect)
As for what would touch my heart, something that a lot of thought had gone in to, such as a book about something I'm really interested in.
Of course if anyone's offering a trip to Rome I'd seriously consider it........:)
"Some day your Prince will come".... that's me singing here jazzy so you've probably gone deaf now.
Yes Rome. Paris, Madrid, London all very nice .
I didn't realise that Jazz was waiting for her prints from Truprint, Lillie.
Sorry, getting my coat as we speak.....
Lol Feline, make sure it's a warm one..
I was singing that tune with you Lillie : ) Someday my prince will come and take me far away.
Could be Paris, Rome or Italy the choice may be yours.
The world 's our Lobster that's for sure.
I prefer Madrid as I could visit my two Spanish grandkiddies on the way through. It would surprise the life out of them. Still I can be patient and wait until they come here for their annual hols in July.
I've more chance of prints from Truprint............!
LOL, Jazz!
After al the funny jokes, it does seem that those of us who are in long-standing relationships are prepared to pull out the stops to let our loved ones know that we still love them.
Lillie and Sabre, I know we have similar experiences at the moment, but the good times outweigh the bad. I wouldn't change anything - unless they found a cure for MS, of course. And a cure for cancer, naturally.
Snoops, Jazz and Serena, keep looking, there WILL be someone there for you!
I had totally decided to be single for the rest of my life when I met Mr F.
You're such a sweetie Feline, you've summed that up perfectly..x
Yes Feline I always said I would never get married again but after meeting Mr S and instantly falling in love (where's the sick bucket) I changed my mind but we had been together for 10 year's before we became man and wife. (Husband said he was sampling the goods before he bought the licence) cheeky monkey.
Feline, I'm not so sure, am convinced I'm better off on my own, but thanks for the kind words.
Thank you do much Feline! Thinking of me I've given up looking when my ex-fiancé and I broke up it'll be four years in July! After a broken marriage then another broken engagement I've beginning to wonder if it's me!! But reading your posts it has somewhat restored some faith in love and marriage!! If it happens it happens if it doesn't it's fine as I've got a great life with my beautiful daughter, good friends and I love my work!!!
I'm happy for all you lovely couples you all sound perfect! Long may it continue!!
Happy valentines to you all!! X
In my experience its either a nagging girlfriend/wife/woman - believe me there is nothing worse that can sap a mans soul and desire to keep a relationship going than a constant nagging especially if its unwarranted.
If a woman just realised that a mans tolerance for constant woman chatter is max 15 minutes all would be well!
A mans brain is designed around watch , chat for 5 minutes , relax and repeat!!! seemples!!!
A womans brain is designed for watch , chat for 23.90 hours , relax and repeat - double seemples!
My friend is constantly accused of cheating by his madly suspicious Phillipino girlfriend and its driving him mad as he never cheated for 4 years but sadly now she has pushed him over the edge and he told me last week he did the dirty deed!
I think he just did it to prove her right - sad how women can push an otherwise loyal man to do the unthinkable - He says he didnt even enjoy the gobble either!
>;o)
Or a lying , cheating boyfriend who watches football all day and has not a romantic bone in his body chav-stylee on the ladies side of things. Nothing worse than a cheater or a wife beater.
As soon as a man bashes you , you know its time to leave.
If you dont you are a mug!!!
Hmmmm think i might apply to be Agony aunt on money.co.uk - what you think?
Yeah i thought so!
Maybe not then!
Lol, Omen!
I hope you don't think I'm a nag?... Lol
I could have still have been married it would have been an unhappy one which I know lots of women do settle for it! But not me i rather be on my own than have an unhappy relationship I don't think it's fair on my daughter so I'm glad I did that when my daughter was just under 2!
I do hope your friend doesn't have any children with his girlfriend?... I trust your giving good advice to your friend?... It sounds to me that the girl is very insecure and has issues perhaps with him doing it in the past she can't get over it, if that is the case she never will and since he did it again enjoyed it or not, I doubt whether they can move on from this.. Sometimes a relationship is well over but it just doesn't end!!
Naw he never cheated in the past and she doesnt know or probably will ever unless they have a bad argument and he blurts it out - She is Phillippino and they tend to be very possessive as do Thai ladies! Its the Eastern thing!!!
That's good you'll be prepared then! Not fancying an eastern chick then?...
Definitely not going on my pals experiences!
Hi Omen; I wouldn't last long in our house if I moaned and groaned about anything much as although Mr S is a brick and very loving he has his moments and would not let anyone let alone a woman tell him what to do. An approach of "I wonder if you would mind helping me with ......" brings out the protective man and the job is completed the same day. It's just a matter of learning how the other half ticks then you have got a lovely partnership. I find men like being spoilt as well which I love to do that for someone I care about.
So right, Sabre. You just have to get the psychology right - make them think it was their idea in the first place!
Ah Feline me old pal you are on the same wave length as me. Mr S say's women are like pussy cats all cuddly and loving then the claw comes out. I wonder what he means ? It's amazing how your tone of voice makes such a difference to how you treat a situation and what the outcome is. We are older and wiser than some of the younger ones and they haven't learn't the tricks of the trade yet. My main point would be never dominate a man you will get nowhere.
My experience is that the control a Sabre, and domination all comes from the other direction, never again!!!
When I was in between the 2nd Mr F and the current Mr F, I did go out with a guy who was a bit of a control freak. When I finished with him all my friends said they were really pleased as he had been changing me without my even realising it because I was besotted with him at the time.
Never again as you so rightly say, Jazz!
That's what they do feline. careful manipulation so you don't realise at first.......amazing how many people (including my children) have told me how different I am now, and I look back and think what a waste of years.
Never ever again!!
No card or present for me. I simply want to spend some dedicated time with my fiance that's focused on us relaxing together. We live and work together so we're in the same building 24 hours a day, usually, but it's not often quality 'us' time.
I just like Valentine's Day to be one day where he'll leave the football alone, I'll leave my work alone and we'll get an hour or two to enjoy a meal together in peace.
I feel sorry for you CPJ - football blokes thats nasty - never understand a guy that puts a stupid overpaid thugs game like football over all else.
Best of luck!
I hope he is not a Rangers fan or you may be in trouble!
>;o)
Lol! You right Omen they are worse!
Well Snoopy if I were in a relationship I would love to receive a card I do like the "me to you" or "forever friends" cards not a huge padded one or anything just a regular one will do nicely.
If it was a serious relationship a little thoughtful gift would be nice something personal silver is what I wear but it doesn't have to be expensive just a wee keepsake would be ideal. A lovely dinner nice, soft music jn the background, good conversation, bottle of wine and now do I need to spell it out where all this is leading to, Snoopy....
Being Scot and as tight as a gnats chuff and well... it is the money.co.uk moneysaving website why not send one of these - in my opinion its better than a card and can be personalised.
Told a girl about it at work today and she was horrified.
Is it just me?
Is it not the thought that counts or are all women so material these days?
As for us guys we never get anything except a moan because the present wasnt big enough , expensive enough or thoughtful enough - we just cant win so maybe we should all boycott this money making enterprise - fast becoming a real downer on the wallet just like Chrimbo!
Omen it's not that women are material these days it's just women or girls like myself would like a wee keepsake to have as a memory...
I've always bought a card and a gift to exchange it doesn't have to be expensive just a little gift...
If a guy was to say to boycott it that would be fine too as I agree it is a money making etc
Yes but you can save the card in your favourites folder in Internet Explorer!
>;o)
lol
Typical computer geek answer I know!!!
How long do you keep it for?
Hmmmm... It's just not the same... Lol
Keep it till its over! Lol! I am a romantic at heart!
What - the relationship? or the day!
lol
Lol! I have to keep them for a while then I forget about them till I know the relationship is over then everything gets chucked out!
Would you not be offended if you bought a card for a girl then she binned it that night with your lovely words that you took time over writing...
No you see thats where us guys are so different and you wummen come from Venus or pluto or summat!
Naw as long as she got a thrill she could bin it when she wanted to!
Its not important its only a bit of card.
What is more important is the loving embrace and gentle love-kiss from the tender (but often manly when required) man child!
>;o)))))))))))
I must be meeting the wrong guys!!! Lol!
The last guy wanted me to keep it and went in a huff when I nearly binned a birthday card from him! That was the possessive one, though!
Very weird - possessive is bad!
I don't know about you but there is so many guys up here with major issues or is it that you reach a certain age that's all is left!
Not that I don't know about I mean what's your experience with girls! Not saying you have issues on the contrary!!! Lol!
Yip its that age.
Problem is most guys are looking for single , young ;o)
Some guys i know all they need is a box of kleenex and a jazz-mag!!!
durty durty bad bad man!!!!!
Hmm something happened to that post - i typed about 200 words and it all disappeared - bugger
Too tired to type it all again!
grrrrrrrrrrrr
Makes me bloody annoyed these web bugs!
Lol! Don't worry about it probably the box of Kleenex got in the way he he!
I'm off to bed goodnight! Oh and happy valentines day! Lol!
I dont use kleenex I use triple quilted with aloe vera and lemon fragrance ultra luxuriant loo roll myself!!!
Quality bloke what can I say...
Nighty night!!!
Do you have to call them jazz mags????
I've never heard the term 'jazz mag', but I think I can work out what Omen is talking about!
I know exactly what he's talking about even though he's the only person I've heard him call them that, I just wish it wasn't my name!! How'd you feel if it were Sabre mags..........?
Are you getting your Sisters mixed up Jazz?
I suppose, me being 'Feline', I should just be grateful he didn't call them 'pussy mags'!
Oh I'm sorry feline!!! My mistake, just cross about another delightful new member who's accused me of trying to be the editor!!!
Lol on pussy mags, very appropriate!!
Yes, I've just read that thread, Jazz, and my jaw dropped in amazement at that person's rudeness. You were only saying what we were all thinking!
Thanks feline :)
The Sisters have to stick together to keep the upstarts in their place, Jazz!
Seem to be getting more and more lately, hope the review comp doesn't draw more of them in!
I think (hope!) theywill go back to the woodwork once the prize has been awarded.
Fingers crossed! Yes, should settle down then and maybe get to be what it was intended to be :)
Ok my pals also call them Scrozzles....
Some Kleenex and a Scrozzle it is then!!!
You women are so hard to please so you are jazz...
>:O)
'Scrozzles' that's a new on on me, Omen.
More details, please. Is it like W*nkers?
Lol! Feline I've never heard of any of these terms it's not a Scottish thing just in case he try's that one, definitely in the world of Omen lol!
Naw Serene in the world of men i am afraid - we keep these secrets and special words close to our chests so you dont know what we are talking about.
Essential to avoid getting nagged for yet another thing we didnt know annoyed you or met with your displeasure.
>;o)
Careful there, Omen, you're giving the secrets away!
Oh is that so, Omen! Tell us more! Not that it matters to me as i've no one to nag but would love to be kept in the know ;)
You must have had some very bad mannered girl friends Omen as even if you aren't really keen on a present upbringing teaches you to smile happily even whilst your thinking I'll be taking this back. I think that's what is wrong with people nowadays they are never satisfied. Keep your hands in your pocket and let the day go past then treat yourself to a Valentine present another day. Definitely a no no to the 123 greetings. They are lovely for people whose address you don't know for birthdays, Christmas, New Year etc. but unless you want something chopped off I would refrain from sending one to a girlfriend or face the consequences.
Lol Sabre! Think e-cards ok for jokey friendly cards, but not sure I'd be impressed from a long term boyfriend. Mind you, can't remember how many years since I last had a card, probably 20+, so even an e-card would be welcome!!
Bless you Jazzj. This time next year you will probably have a lovely valentine card all of your own but until then Happy Valentines Day to a lovely person.
Aah thanks Sabre! Not sure I want to get involved with anyone after what I've been through, but its a nice thought!
Happy Valentine's Day to you dear money friends. I send you all my love and thanks for being special in so many different ways to me personally.
It may not be the kind of love you are looking for but it is given with heartfelt thoughts to you all, I hope you enjoy your day and evening....x
BTW Snoopy, here's hoping you get something furry on your lap very soon...:)
Thank you, Lillie.
I wish the same to you and to all my other dear friends in this lovely community.
And I second your message to dear Snoops!
Lillie, what a lovely thought, and I wish you and all my other friends here the same. Much rather have something heartfelt like that from a friend than worthless stuff from a..ooh I'm stuck for words..from an unsuitable man..how's that??
Lillie and Feline, thank you for your thoughts ... something furry you say? Just as long as it doesn't creep up my leg ... and of course it must not bite!
look after your pussy Snoops and it'll be nice to you :)
I do hope so Jazz .... it's been a long time .....
Didn't realise you'd been a cat owner before Snoops..when was the last time........?
Now you are teasing me Jazz, ... I think .....
I have had four pussies in the past with the last one expiring on my hall carpet about seven years ago or so. Having said that, I do bump into other people's pussies on a regular basis ... allows me to 'top up' my pussy experience on a regular basis. Some people say that it's like riding a bike, if you haven't been on one for a while, you just get back on and away you go ....
Aah poor puss, heartbreaking when they die, I remember finding one of mine curled up in her favourite snoozing place having died in her sleep..so peaceful, I thought lovely way to go.
As for bikes, never really got the hang of them..........
Now would I tease Snoops......? Could quite easily have asked when you last had a pussy, but I didn't in case you misinterpreted.....................
My loving thoughts too one and all and hope the day is special to you all. Even if you prepare a nice tea for yourself you deserve it and you never know who'll be opposite you next year. Love Sabre x
p.s. my bet is Snoopy will definitely have something/someone on his knee tonight whether it be fluffy or huggy !!! x
Lucky Snoops :) And I'm not naughty Sabre, was just pointing out what I would have said if I had been teasing......
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Lovely, heartfelt comment, Lillie.
I hope you and Mr L have a happy and pain free day.
Ahh thank you Feline, yes I'll pull out all the stops to see that Mr L is well catered for.
Enjoy your day too..x
Bless you both I hope you have a lovely evening with your treasured husbands and the pain they are both feeling will remain pain free on that day. Enjoy yourselves Love Sabre x
Aah that's lovely Lillie, very much to the point as usual. Have a super day
Thank you Sabre and Jazzy, I was afraid I may have come across as a little cheesey there but it's truly how I feel especially about showing all this affection for only one day of the year.
I'm totally in agreement regarding public shows of affection and large bunches of flowers, oh how I would cringe....
No way cheesy, Lillie, just sincere, as you always are my dear friend.
Not cheesy at all Lillie, I think its lovely, truly I do
Hope your having a lovely day Mr and Mrs L! Same to you Mr snd Mrs S and Jazzj you with your lovely 4 children! X
Children all out today, got the day to myself :) Have a good one Serena!
You could try the decadence lesson, Jazz, if the kids have all gone out
Been for a haircut Feline, that's a good start for me! Got to get some shopping, tidy up and do some ironing, then I might well do that before they get back! Too cold to take clothes off at the moment, I don't have the heating on when they're not here!